Midas Supporter ++
- Mar 31, 2010
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I think it would be high for a Buddhist monk in Tibet who has all material cares given. It might be rather low for a soldier in an active war zone. You have a patient that needs care, and you put yourself into overdrive to do EVERY SINGLE THING YOU CAN. When I have some non-personal job, I often go into "turbo" mode, where I observe my whole essence speeds up to get it done. Even when it is just taking the truckload of "Bountiful Baskets" produce and dividing it into the members' baskets. I get what you are going through. I suggest you consider it normal and hopefully temporary.I took his blood pressure (which is fantastically low, without BP meds!), mine was 147/110 with a pulse of 107. Is that bad?
I suggest the change from "even when" to "especially when". Don't doctors defer to others for surgery for family members? Don't lawyers get another when they need to face litigation? It is natural to care for a loved one, but is it not hard to be the primary caregiver? Please, do what you can, but accept the help that is offered. And understand why others will offer help. I ask directly, "why are others helping?" The answer will affirm why Silver is worthy of respect.Asking for a friend. Caregiving is HARD, even when you love the patient with every fiber of your being.
He is still here, so he still has more to do. Life is a job. We have work to do. Quitting your job just means you have to get a new job. He needs to be here to do what he needs to do. Quitting now is leaving us without whatever he might have added.He went pretty dark on me this morning and our caregiver, we'll call her Connie, came over as soon as I called. she specializes in hospice care and is so excited to be helping someone heal rather than crossover. She said suicide is unchangeable and not his best bet. But that it's totally normal to have these thoughts.
OKAY! I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE WILL GIVE, BUT WE NEED IT! Can I get any plainer than that?! Please read this to him.
My words are leaving me emotional and crying. So be it. I wish the best for you both.